Friends can help but sometimes what you are going through is too big to handle by yourself and you need an adult to get involved.
But who do you ask for help?
What do I say to start the conversation? Arenʼt they going to think I am crazy and need to be in a hospital?
Most adults will try and listen to you carefully and offer you their support. They will also have a good idea of where to get help, and if the matter is serious they can go with you to talk to the police or appropriate agency.
If you feel that the adult you have chosen is unresponsive, not taking you seriously or is being judgemental then you should thank them for listening and walk away. Some adults have their own issues with suicide any they may not be a good choice to talk to about your concerns. You should always try talking to another adult and not give up, your concerns and feelings are real and important and they deserve to be heard
I'm too nervous to approach an adult myself
If you are very nervous or stressed about approaching an adult to start a conversation you could also ask a friend or a sibling to approach your trusted adult on your behalf and see how they react. If the adult is supportive then they can ask the adult to approach you and start the conversation.
You can also talk to someone at one of the national helplines 24/7/365:
If you've signed up to support YSPI by taking part in our Skydive Experience 2014, or are thinking about Challenging Yourself, I just wanted to let you know that we will be testing our new Skydive Personal Fundraising Pages over the weekend and they will be going live on Monday. If you are already registered we will email you with your user name and password as soon as the new system goes live.
The advantage of these Personal Fundraising pages is that all funds sponsored or donated come directly to us and we don't have to pay a percentage to anyone for processing the payments. Using our Personal Fundraising Pages means that 100% of the funds you raise will come to YSPI.
With a Personal Fundraising Page you can collect sponsorship online by sharing the link to your page on Facebook, Twitter, email etc. All sponsorship donations are made through PayPal and are secure. You can also notify us that your are sending funds to us by bank transfer or cheque and this amount will be added to your profile automatically.
The current website really needs a redesign so that information is easier to find and the user experience is much simpler and cleaner.
This is the final design but not the final layout as the page is still too "busy". Click the image to see a larger version in a new window.
One of the reasons frequently given by young persons who harm themselves is social exclusion by peers or indeed overt bullying. Traditionally, this took the form of either physical aggression or a form of relational victimisation whereby a young person was in some way excluded or teased. With the dramatic increase in communication technologies, the means by which this can be perpetrated have increased, in a way which is extremely difficult to monitor.
Under the umbrella term of cyber bullying come a variety of forms of victimisation
which include the use of mobile telephones and computers. These include abusive messages, spreading rumours, posting photographs either via mobile phone or on social network sites. A further and sinister development is the filming of physical aggression perpetrated on the young person and its transmission to others.
It is extremely difficult to police these forms of communication, in many ways because the technological awareness of teenagers is far ahead of that of adults. In addition, while previously there was just one telephone in a house, and nobody would dare ring after 9.00 p.m. or so, young people with mobile phones or computer access can be busy communicating well into the early hours, when others are asleep. One of the dreadful consequences of being the victim of such bullying is the fact that ‘nowhere is safe’. While previously one knew where to avoid, the sense of vulnerability as a consequence of being cyber bullied is much greater.
It is extremely important that young people learn both how to protect themselves and also to report the victimisation of others. What can appear to be a “prank” or “teasing” can be highly distressing and has certainly lead to numerous episodes of self-harm, and indeed worse.
This article can be downloaded as a PDF information sheet here
|Youth Suicide Prevention Ireland was founded in 2007 and is a fully registered Irish Charity. Our founding aim was to create a charity working to prevent suicide amongst the young people of Ireland specifically. Now in our sixth year we have a number of youth project up and running this year that really need your support.|
Youth Suicide Prvention Ireland specialises in providing suicide prevention information specifically designed for young people through traditional and online media.
We develop online Youth Campaigns, distribute suicide and self-harm prevention information to schools and colleges, and provide funding for counselling support and materials for educational programmes. We are currently developing an online support forum for young people at risk of suicide or self-harm.
We were founded on a simple principle which we have worked to achieve over the last seven years, and our mission statement says more than we ever could:
"because one life lost is one life too many"
There has never been a more important time to support youth suicide prevention in Ireland as young people are being hit on all sides by the reality of life in 2013 and suicide rates are rising again and, sadly, our most at risk group is young males..
It can seem a bleak picture to young people but there is so much help and support available to them, both amongst their friends, family and peer group, and also in the wider community where many are working to prevent youth suicide on a daily basis.